There is a very simple answer to the question of why social games are not more social – money. There ARE games on the social networks that are indeed more social. People aren’t playing them as much or spending as much in them as the games you decry above. Game developers, being in business, have responded to this market feedback.

If people really wanted the types of games you advocate, they’d be playing and paying for them. They’re not. Market-driven conclusion: they do not actually want those types of games.